You are not my enemy

I sat breathless. He couldn't be preparing to say what I think he was. Could he? No. Of course not. Not him. Not the man who had made such great strides in leading me well. Not the man who opened up the book of Galatians with me just days ago to encourage my heart. This …

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Misshaped Circumstances

When I first read that pregnancy test, just days after my husband's full confession, my heart sank. This was bad timing. But, it was God's timing. And, I resolved to trust in Him when my circumstances felt misshaped. I've quickly come to have confidence that this baby is a very intentional gift. An act of …

A credit card

I'm learning that feeling secure is a funny, fickle thing. Once there is a betrayal like infidelity, all it takes is for the wind to blow wrong, and your security feels threatened - no matter how good things seem to be. My husband and I have been talking about buying a home. This isn't a …

His Spoken Word

After D-Day number two a group of friends from church gifted me an in-home massage. It took some time, due to an injury, but I was able to enjoy that massage yesterday. The woman who gave me the massage so happens to be a dear friend, a mentor, and one of the few people outside …

My earrings, and their connection to adultery.

Red lipstick, and big earrings. In some ways, those are trademarks of mine. They're something I've become notorious for. When I choose not to wear them, it is mentioned. It didn't always used to be that way. I was a tomboy. A quick pony tail, and slightly baggy clothes were all I was comfortable in. …

Marriage, redeemed.

At what point do you finally claim "we're healed"? Is it a time period that goes by, where no thoughts of the betrayal cross your mind? Is it a vow renewal? Is it that magical 18-24 months that some psychologists and experts claim it takes to heal from infidelity trauma? What does it even mean …

One week left

One week left. That's all we have to go. We started this relatively intense infidelity recovery program 12 weeks ago. Frankly, I'm tired. It has been good. We've dug into issues such as triggers, the "why", forgiveness, old habits, old hurts, and so much more. We've joined in weekly conference calls with others, also walking …

I spent a little time, forgetting.

We went out of town this past weekend. It was a quick trip, only a day and a half. A bit of a whirlwind. My kids love traveling with their daddy when he has to go somewhere for work. Being homeschoolers, we're always on the hunt for a good field trip. A zoo, a local …